It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or a woman. If you find yourself wanting a divorce when getting divorced is the last thing your spouse wants to do, you are not alone. When marriages fall apart, it's pretty typical that one partner wants to end it and the other does not. So, although you may be thinking “ What can I do when my spouse doesn't want a divorce"? The real question you should ask is, “How to go about it without making any already difficult situation worse”?
While we would all agree that the breakup of a marriage can be distressing for everyone involved, the breakdown of the relationship between parents often means that children have to deal with dramatic changes in their lifestyle which can leave most children feeling worried, confused, hurt, or even angry. All too often I see families confine themselves to traditional models of parenting after separation without considering a model or arrangement that might be better suited to
So you have just learned there is a new kinder, gentler, less expensive why to get divorced using either the collaborative or mediation divorce process, and you have decide to propose mediation or collaborative into your divorce. When doing this it’s important to convey to your spouse your willingness to consider his or her point of view on whether, when, how, and with whom to start the process. Provide your spouse with information without making your spouse feel like it’s ab
How you get from being married to divorced is a process and this process can figure into the final outcome. I strongly believe and advocate for a process that is fair and where both parties have an open table to speak.
How do you get this process? Through mediation or the collaborative process. Mediation is done by a neutral professional who has been trained in mediation. I recommend the use of attorneys who have practiced family and divorce law and then taken that added st
One of the most difficult aspects of ending a marriage is figuring out how to divide your assets. Almost universally I am asked why do I have to share my pension, 401(k) or other asset with my soon to be former spouse. To the person asking this question it appears to be “not fair” or something they find offensive. The account holder worked hard building their egg nest and they do not want to share. Perhaps you diverted some of your earnings into a 401(k) or were required to
Everyone knows divorce is emotional situation, but it can also wreak havoc on your finances. One of the many decisions the two of you need to make during a divorce is, what to do with your house. Should one of you stay in your primary residence to keep the kids in the same school, or should it be sold so that the profits can be divided according to an agreed-upon formula? There is no one right or wrong answer, but there can be wrong decisions. The best way to protect yoursel
Alimony and the new Tax Code The alimony deduction that has been in the tax code since 1942 is about to change in 2019. The deadline for newly divorced spouses to enter into agreements that include tax-deductible alimony is December 31, 2018. The questions on everyone mind is: “Should I hurry up and get divorced in 2018 or slow down and see how the tax implications work out for alimony”? It’s complicated because the answer depends on whether you are the payer or the recipient