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  • Laura L. Van Tassel, Esq.

When Divorcing, Who You Listen To Really Matters.

All a person has to do is simply mention the word “divorce,” and it’s as everyone wants to share their experiences, offer opinions and give advice. There are many names for these folks: the chorus, the friend, family member, hairdresser, co-worker but they have one thing in common, they are going to tell you exactly what you need to do in your divorce.

These are the very well meaning people in your life who want to ensure you get the very best outcome for your divorce. The problem is that they do not know the law and the very particular circumstances of your life. Every divorce is different. It’s so fact sensitive that comparing your own situation with another can sometimes lead to incorrectly drawn conclusions and legal mistakes.

Your circumstances are unique to you just as your personalities are unique to you and your spouse. No two couples have the same assets. No two couples have the same marriage. That’s why you can’t compare one divorce to another. Which is why you need to retain an attorney who has the experience in handling all types of situations in divorce. Not only the knowledge of the law and cases but also how to get from “we need to end this” to the actual divorce.

Given the complexities of today’s divorce and finance laws, each one requires much more than an assortment of free tips and casual recommendations. Remember, at the end of the day, you have to live with your decisions and so does your spouse. Whether you select mediation, collaborative practice or some hybrid of these, you need an experienced attorney at your side, guiding you through this process.

So, the next time your friend, business associate, or your hair dresser comes forward to offer advice about your divorce, be polite. But, at the end of the conversation say, “Thank you for your concern, but I’ve got this”.

Van Tassel Law specializes in mediation, collaborative divorce and other methods of settling your divorce issues without litigation thereby allowing you to control your costs, time and settle the matter in a manner that is respectful and as peaceful as possible.

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