The holidays are here! Some folks love to plan and others, not so much – but when you are separating or divorcing planning for where the children (and you too!) will spend the holidays can become a nightmare. If you are like most people you have routines and family traditions that you want to pass down to your children. Having a shared holiday plan with your former wife/ husband can make those traditions difficult to continue, and can be a source of major frustration. In ord