Taking control of Valentine's Day before and after your divorce
The single most important thing you need to ensure a good Valentine’s Day is not a new husband or wife. It’s the decision to take control of your life knowing you have every situation covered.
Planning is one of the most important activities to engage in during and after a divorce so you can emerge stronger and ready to move forward into the next chapter of your life.
Here are the issues you should be thinking about.
Revoke your will and make a new one
Start by revoking your old will (literally tearing it up is the best way) and making a new one. If you don’t already have a will, now’s the time to make one. The same is true if you made a living trust while you were married.
Name an executor
If you don’t want your ex-spouse to inherit your property, you probably don’t want him or her in charge of your estate, either. But if you named your spouse as your executor (called your personal representative in some states), it could happen unless you make a new will.
Update your health care proxy
The health care proxy allows you to name someone to make health care decisions for you if, for instance, you were in a car accident or had a health emergency and were unable to communicate. Unless you want your ex-spouse making these decisions – and I haven’t met many people who do – you need to name someone else you trust.
Change your power of attorney
If you had an old power of attorney naming your ex-spouse, that should be revoked. You should also execute a new power of attorney naming a friend, relative or trusted advisor to act as your agent regarding your finances and assets.
Update Beneficiary Designations
As important as your will is, it might now cover some of your most valuable assets. Many assets pass outside of a will, to beneficiaries named on paperwork provided by a bank or insurance company. So be sure to update your beneficiary designations for:
Life insurance policies
Retirement accounts such as IRAs and 401(k)s
Pay-on-death bank accounts
Transfer-on-death brokerage accounts
Make New Powers of Attorney
Powers of attorney—documents that give someone authority to act for you if it’s ever necessary—are a big part of an estate plan. You should have two powers of attorney: one for healthcare (medical decisions), and one for financial matters. If you already have powers of attorney that give your former spouse authority to make decisions on your behalf, revoke them and make new documents.
Do you have a plan?
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